Phyllis
Adele Milliger Carey
November
20, 1938 – April 20, 2022
Phyllis,
83, beloved “Gigi”, Grandma and Mom, passed away peacefully on Wednesday, April
20, 2022 at her home in Nemo, Texas.
Visitation
and service will be held on Saturday, April 30, 2022 at 1 pm and 2 pm
respectively at the Wiley Funeral Home, 400 Highway 377 East in Granbury,
Texas. In lieu of flowers, Phyllis would prefer donations to be made in
her memory to Ranch Hands Rescue in Argyle, Texas at www.ranchhandsrescue.org.
Phyllis
was born on November 20, 1938, to Phil and Adele Kothmann Milliger, in Brady,
Texas. After Phyllis’ first year, the family moved to Llano and four
years later to Houston where she remained for years.
Phyllis
received her degree in secondary education in January of 1960 at the University
of Texas and began teaching math at a junior high school in Houston.
After a while, Phyllis felt the pull of the country and transferred to Katy
High School to teach Algebra, her preferred subject. After teaching math
to teenagers for over 30 years, Phyllis earned her well-deserved retirement in
1994.
Phyllis
developed an early love of horses spending much of her time at the
Kothmann-Milliger family ranch at Cedar Mountain in Llano and her Uncle Charles
and Aunt Ruth Moss’s property, The Enchanted Rock. It is a little kept
secret amongst family members that Phyllis is at her best when alongside her
horses. Even when living in suburban Houston, Phyllis kept her faithful
Appaloosa, Fury nearby and cared for and rode him often.
In
1961, Phyllis married John Edward Carey in Houston, Texas, and gave birth to
their son, Brian Edward Carey, the same year. Their daughter, Michelle
Adele Carey, followed in 1969. John and Phyllis parted ways in 1974 and
remained friends throughout the subsequent years.
After
retiring from teaching, Phyllis helped her parents for many years and
eventually pulled up stakes in Houston to move to Liberty Hill in 2001.
There, she realized her dream of owning property big enough to house Fury and
his sidekick donkey, Libby. After a few years and hoof hindrances, Libby
moved to greener pastures and Silver came into Phyllis’ life. Silver was
a miniature pony with a gigantic personality, and of course he wasn’t actually
silver, but black. Her Corgi, Toby was always by her side as she maintained
the new homestead and lived her passion of caring for her equine stablemates.
In
2010, she moved to Copper Canyon to live closer to Michelle and her
family. Of course, Fury, Silver and Toby went with her, because she
needed chaperones while she tooled around in her bucket list car – a shiny
black Toyota pick-up with big knobby tires!
Phyllis
loved time with her family, especially the grandkids. She spent her time
bouncing around in her pick-up to watch soccer and football games, enjoying
time with friends or just shaking her head at whatever crazy stunt the grands
were doing, usually at the pool. It’s a wonder she had time for all of
that as much as she paid attention to and loved on her horses. One of her
favorite activities was teaching others about her love for horses, whether it
was showing them how to brush the horses, or “letting” her grandsons haul her
horse manure.
A
decade later, Phyllis, Michelle and Stuart moved to Nemo for a slower pace of
life, and of course the trailer with her horses followed. By this time,
Fury and Toby had crossed the rainbow bridge, and Silver had a rambunctious
pony playmate named Jasper while Pippa the Pembroke ruled the Carey home.
Phyllis especially enjoyed the horse activities at the nearby Expo Center,
whether it was a rodeo or a miniature horse show. She also loved the
patches of bluebonnets right up the street that reminded her of her childhood
in the Hill Country with fields of bluebonnets. Her high points always
seemed to include Ivy and Kylan, the two bestest great grandchildren she could
have wished for. These two made the neighborhood bluebonnets look
great. Gigi gave them “riding lessons” on Silver and Jasper which caused
squeals of delight and smiles all around.
When
asked for the legacy Phyllis would like to impart to future generations, the
answers come quickly – “Love of the land,” “Remembrance of ancestors” and most
of all, “love of family,” and don’t forget the bluebonnets growing in her front
yard. When asked what her secret to happiness is, Phyllis smiles
knowingly, “always remember to be kind to one another.” As for a
soundtrack for her legacy, it’s definitely sung by Willie Nelson.
The
lessons of life that Phyllis taught her own children, and the ones now being
imparted to the generation of her grandchildren and great grandchildren, echo
the voices of her parents, Phil and Adele Milliger who pioneered the family
values that live on in the story told to each new member.
Phyllis
is preceded in death by her parents, Phil and Adele Kothmann Milliger.
She is survived by her sister, Sylvia Annette Milliger Spence (Jim), her
children Brian Edward Carey (Colleen), Michelle Adele Costello (Stuart Smith),
her grandchildren Clayton Carey, Lauren Carey, Brandon Costello (Shelby),
Trevor Costello, Jonathan Costello and Tatianna Carey, her step grandchildren
McLaurin Smith Alexander and Stuart Smith and her great grandchildren Ivy and
Kylan Costello.